Uh, you just should'd yourself
Life is filled with shoulds. I should have this. I should own that. That shouldn’t have happened. I should, they should, she should, the president should. Basically shoulds are a judgement on some aspect of reality and we have them all the time. Is having a “case of the shoulds” a good thing? Does it make us happier? Does it bring us any closer to our goals? Lets find out, through self-reflection, and see if you’ll stop shoulding on yourself and others.
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Chapter 1
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Lesson 1: What is should?
Half the time we don’t even realize that we stepped in should. You could have should on your shoe right now. Worse, it could be inside you.
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Lesson 2: Piles of should
We all should. It is a natural thing and a given. It is apt to happen in the human experience, like learning a language. Given that it is natural, should we stop shoulding?
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Chapter 2
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Lesson 1: The case to not dig up past should
When you should the past, you have no recourse. There is no way to change the past.
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Lesson 2: The case to have less hypothetical future shoulds
Future shoulds are projections into the possibilities of what lies before you or others.
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Lesson 3: Shoulding is not a present
Although all shoulding happens in the present moment, it starves you of experiencing true presence. You’re typically ruminating in the past or future.
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Chapter 3
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Lesson 1: Cleaning off your should
Once you start seeing the should that is thrown at you by others, and yourself, you start to intervene.
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Lesson 2: Cleaning off other's should
You can’t stop others from shoulding. That is like shoulding on top of shoulding. All you get it is more should.
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Lesson 3: Be a should navigator
Start to notice the shoulding that is all around you and within. Start to disrupt your typical reactions to should and instead should less.
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