2hearU
2hearU is a free communication recipe that fosters reflective listening and self-solutions with another person. Whether used in personal relationships or professional settings, it empowers individuals to drive meaningful conversations and forge stronger, more effective connection
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Phase 1
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Step 1: Lightly Identifying the challenge with communication
Effective communication between adults can be challenging due to differing styles, emotional triggers, and personal biases, making it essential for both parties to actively work towards understanding each other's perspectives for a harmonious dialogue.
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Step 2: Developing Goals and Sharing
In meaningful conversations, each participant should set personal goals that align with their own values and desires, rather than just focusing on the other’s needs. This approach fosters mutual growth and a balanced, supportive relationship, enhancing understanding and connection.
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Step 3: Naming 3 Issues as "News Titles"
In a structured approach to addressing relationship issues, participants list concerns as "News Titles" and take turns discussing and resolving each title individually, ensuring a focused and constructive dialogue without overwhelming grievances.
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Step 4: Pineapples
Using a neutral term like "Pineapples" in collaborative problem-solving can signal when issues are being merged or when negative behavior occurs, prompting a pause for reflection and maintaining a productive, focused dialogue.
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Phase 2
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Step 1: Reflective Listening - Sharer
It all starts with a sharing of one's thoughts and feelings while another fully listens, reflectively.
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Step 2: Reflective Listening - Listener becomes the Sharer
Reflective listening involves a structured role reversal where participants alternate between sharing their perspectives using "I" statements and reflecting on each other's messages without judgment, ensuring both parties feel fully understood and fostering constructive dialogue.
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Step 3: Reflective Listening - The dance
Reflective listening process involves each participant taking turns to share their thoughts using “I” statements, with the other reflecting back their understanding without judgment. This exchange continues until both parties feel fully understood, fostering empathy and respect in the dialogue.
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Phase 3
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Step 1: Self Solutions
In the third phase, both participants collaboratively develop actionable solutions using “I” statements and observable behaviors, maintaining a constructive and non-judgmental approach while offering supportive feedback to refine each other's plans.
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Step 2: Need Help?
Seeking support from a couples therapist can help identify patterns, maintain boundaries, and provide tailored strategies when self-facilitated communication breaks down.
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