Phase 2
Reversing the roles:
The listener becomes the sharer. The sharer becomes the listener. Same process as the last page which I will paste below for your reference. See example for proper use of “pineapples.”
New “Sharer”: This is the person who did not choose the news article. Begin by expressing your thoughts and feelings for a few minutes on the news title, using “I” statements to communicate your perspective clearly and without resorting to attacking language or name-calling.
“Listener”: You have to listen and reflect back what you heard from the “Sharer” without judgment, defensiveness and insincerity. You can literally reflect back a summary or you can see if you have the ability to term the issues successfully without setting them off. The latter is next level abilities. It is important that they get time to share, say 3 minutes (hint: try a timer), and then you reflect back on what you hear, purely. This is hard when there is so much content, hence 3 minute caps to assist. They’ll correct you if you are not accurately hearing everything. You’ll then have to do it again until it is done to the specifications of this paragraph. Once successful, they can keep sharing for up to 3 minutes (insert timer here) and you’ll repeat this rodeo again and again until it is all out on this one topic. I cannot promise you this will arrive but I think you should persevere to achieve a potential different outcome.
Example:
Sharer (formerly listener): I need time after work to be free, to do what I want and to relax.
Listener: What I hear is that you need to be lazy.
Sharer: Pineapples
Listener: Sorry, what I hear you saying is that you need “me time” after work?
Sharer: Yes.