Chapter 2
No one is trying to take your should from you. You have every right to should. The question is, should you should less?
Future shoulds are judgments and attachment on the future of yourself or someone/something else. Future shoulds are often tied to past shoulds. It is kind of like the past should makes a future should. Basically a should multiplier. An example of this could be pulled from the prior lesson. The conversation that you review can move to the future where you entertain what you will say in various situations. You can entertain all kinds of scenarios which can cause you emotional reactions and they are all in your head, have not even happened. There is some benefit to mentally playing out future scenarios, so not all unnecessary should, but you’ll know when you have over should’d.
Future shoulds are projections into the possibilities of what lies before you or others. These are not always bad, remember recycling, but they are typically formed after processing a past should. Continually shoulding on your, or other’s, future is torture and unnecessary. Shoulding this much creates anxiety, fear, angst, sadness, worry, anger and possibly weight-loss. That is a lot of should and half the should won’t even happen.
Should less?