Chapter 3
While reinforcement—such as rewards—is crucial, the role of positive attention and praise is equally, if not more, significant. When children receive affirmation from their parents, it releases natural “happy” chemicals in their brains, creating a sense of joy and connection. This feedback communicates that you see them, care for them, and love them. Often, this emotional validation can be more meaningful to them than any tangible reward, like a nickel or an extra 10 minutes of video game time.
To amplify the impact, be sure to use their name during praise. For example, saying, “Thank you, Jimmy, for putting away your socks without being asked. I appreciate how thoughtful you are,” not only reinforces positive behavior but also makes the child feel recognized and valued. Following that with a small reward—like a dime, a token, or a check mark on a tracking sheet—can create a powerful combination. Together, these elements help wire their brains with strong “if/then” connections, setting the stage for positive behavior and emotional growth.