Chapter 3
In the initial stages, it’s essential to emphasize more instances of praise and rewards than just praise alone. While both are important, specific rewards help reinforce those “if/then” connections in your child's mind. For example, you might say, “Thank you, Jimmy, for getting off your game when it was time. I really appreciate you following our structure.” These moments of recognition are powerful and necessary for transitioning away from physical rewards over time.
Starting with a higher frequency of rewards+praise accelerates the brain's rewiring process, but it’s crucial to gradually shift towards to just praise as you progress. I often recommend a ratio of two instances of praise/reward to one instance of just praise. This balance will help ensure that your child continues to feel supported and motivated while reinforcing positive behavior in a sustainable way.